Why Do I Always Think My Boyfriend Is Cheating?
You look into his eyes and ask him if he loves you; he answers, of course. But it seems to you that he somehow cooled off towards you, and oh, the first thought that crosses your mind is that he has another woman. The problem is that if you start to think a lot about cheating, it starts to seem to you that any of his missteps is one of the signs he’s cheating. However, this is not always the case.
Before you start theorizing about your boyfriend, make sure you’re in the right place at the moment. There are chances that you are just tired or you are being chased by the ghosts of your past that have nothing to do with your current relationship. Often, you just need to contemplate the following:
- obsessive thoughts about your boyfriend’s infidelity may also indicate that other things are not going well in your relationship, and so you turn a blind eye to current problems
- you project your thoughts onto your partner; perhaps you cheated in your past relationships, or you are not averse to having an affair on the side. Cheating people often blame their partners out of pressure or shame.
- your fears may stem from not only the bitter experience of dating but also other psychological disorders and unstable emotional states
Make it a rule not to think about something more than once unless you have legit reasons to support your thoughts. If you are having obsessive thoughts, this may be a reason to go into therapy.
If you understand that there are no signs he’s cheating and your thoughts are irrational, try to tune in the right wave, realizing that you can destroy your union with your own hands. If you think that your bond is not strong enough, be sure to discuss this with your partner and find solutions together.